Okay, Okay, I admit it, I have my feet firmly planted in the self-help world right now. Despite being a little ashamed, I am taking all of the advice and covering myself with it like a thick wool blanket in a snow storm.
However, I have finally found a book that has spoke so clear and plain about what it is that has to be done to live a fulfilling life, at least in my POV. Jen Sincero’s You Are a Badass, eloquently and unapologetically gets to the bare bones of the main principles that many of us painstakingly have to learn over years to figure out. She has done all of the hard work so we don’t have to.
I have a beautiful twenty minute drive to work, and for me, that is the best time to listen to books, although I usually prefer to read them. At first I thought this was going to be the same self-help books I read in the past, you know the ones that make you feel like you’re reading the script to an after school special. In the first minute of listening, I found out that I was highly mistaken.
Jen Sincero cuts to the chase while offering up comedic personal situations so that readers are not bored to tears and are also able to relate. I love that type of delivery, and so far, I have not heard or read anything else like it. However, that is not saying much because I have only dipped my toe so far into the self-help pool.
The main points that I learned in this book are not spectacularly different from any other self-help book that I have read in the past. I believe what amazed me is what I said above, the delivery was refreshing. So much so, that it sparked something in me that I believe will cause permanent change in my life.
One thing that she says quite a few times in the book is to “love yourself.” You would think, yeah, uh, duh, not a huge revelation, but it really is. I spend a lot of my time speaking about my bad qualities or saying “I wish” all of the time. I wish I could sing. I am such a bad artist, wish I could draw. Oh, she is so organized, I am such a slob. Those statements are not going to ever get me to my goals in life. If I truly loved myself the way I should, I would be laser focused on the things that I am good at.
True to You?
Another big point I took away from the book was to not be afraid of who I am. I have always been secretly proud of myself for being a chameleon. I can blend in almost anywhere and have a conversation with almost anyone. I realized that this is not necessarily the best quality because most of the time I am not being true to myself, I am being what I believe others would want me to be.
For the Love of Money
I love money! Yea, I said it, and now I am not ashamed of it. I am learning slowly but surely to change my relationship with money. Sincero speaks in her book about how she felt ashamed of desiring more income and how she thought she was living a noble life by barely making it. I had the same school of thinking and now I understand why I should not feel bad about using money to create the life that I want, not only for myself, but others as well.
What Do You Want?
One huge problem that I realized I had while listening to this book is I had no clue of what I really wanted and how to get there. Sincero was very clear on finding out exactly what you want, and it took me a whole seven days to really pin down what I wanted for my life and I am still ironing out how I will get there as I type this. I will say that just knowing exactly what I wanted helped tremendously with goal setting.
Thankfulness and Giving
Ever since I finished the book, I have written down everything that I am grateful for everyday. This has helped me really put things into perspective, because on paper, my life is really not that bad. It’s really not bad at all. I believe that sometimes we live in our heads so much, that it’s hard to see outside of ourselves. When I write down everything I am grateful for, I can see outside of myself and really appreciate my existence, circumstance, and those around me. Being thankful for what you have also prompts you to give back and pay it forward. Jen Sincero has given many hope for a new life and I hope that one day I am able to inspire others the way that she has inspired me.
There are many other points in You Are a Badass that really inspired me that are not listed here. These are just a few points that I personally had real “Aha!” moments about. If you have already read this book, please share what you thought about it in the comments. Thanks!